Creating a Society That Prevents 'Separated Parent-Child' Relationships

In Japan, the unfortunate reality is that many children lose contact with one of their parents after a divorce. With approximately 180,000 divorces occurring in 2023—half of which involve underage children—there is a pressing need to ensure that parent-child relationships are upheld. Despite the upcoming implementation of joint custody in April 2026, mere establishment of laws doesn't guarantee the protection of these vital relationships.

Current Challenges: Hidden 'Parent-Child Separation'

Many families face interruptions in their parent-child relationships due to systemic inadequacies. Current legal frameworks often fail to facilitate appropriate visitation arrangements, leading to situations where parents are unable to see their children even when they wish to. Consequently, the emotional toll this takes on both children and parents is substantial, raising serious concerns from a children's rights perspective.
Children inherently possess the right to cultivate relationships with both parents.

A Personal Perspective: The Separated Parent’s Experience

I am personally affected by this issue. After separating from my spouse in 2021, I found myself unable to see my children due to unexpected constraints. I believed I had the understanding and cooperation of my former spouse; however, I was ultimately forced into a situation where I could not maintain a relationship with my beloved children for over two years.

Through this experience, it became apparent to me that these challenges extend beyond individual cases and represent systemic societal problems. The current framework can lead to unacceptable realities, wherein adult considerations and the inadequacies of existing laws prevent children from fostering bonds with both parents.

Growing up in a temple environment, I was trained to prioritize the well-being of others, imparting a deep understanding of mortality and the precariousness of life. Hence, I believe it is vital to advocate for action now rather than postpone crucial changes for the future.

A Vision for Society: Protecting Parental Bonds

I strive for a future where not only are children encouraged to maintain relationships with both parents, but also a society where the reality of parental separation does not exist. It’s paramount that children can have meaningful interactions with both sides of their families, regardless of any adult reconfigurations.

It is troubling when I hear, “You can see them later when they’re older.” The assumption that the future is guaranteed for both children and me is flawed.

Actions Toward Realizing This Dream

To translate this vision into reality, I am fully committed to various initiatives:

- Social Media Advocacy: Through platforms like TikTok (38K followers) and X, I aim to raise awareness among parenting generations outside the affected parties.
- Political Engagement: I continuously engage with local and national political figures to pave the way for effective joint custody legislation.
- Nationwide Campaigns: I plan to traverse all 47 prefectures to conduct surveys and gather signatures advocating for improved post-divorce child visitation arrangements.

My Commitment: A Society Where Children’s Rights Flourish

Ultimately, my dream is to create a reality devoid of children’s tears for missing a parent or a parent’s grief for being separated from their child. I wish to cultivate a societal perspective that shifts away from viewing parental divorce as a severance of familial ties.

Moving forward, I will remain an active voice addressing these issues to ensure children’s rights take precedence in all considerations surrounding divorce and custody.

About Haruka Katsuyama

Born in 1990 in Hokkaido, I transitioned from working in prominent job advertising and HR companies to independent advocacy by June 2025. Now, as the head of my company and an influencer, I address the critical matter of 'parent-child separation' through various media platforms.

Find me on TikTok/X/Instagram: @ha_chan_new TikTok Link